Mistake: Not Getting HELP & the Adonis Effect
(taken from Weapons of Mass Influence – the Adonis Effect)
This is by FAR the biggest mistake of all.
Just as men loathe getting directions when we're lost, most men will never ask someone to help them get this part of our lives together.
Our egos prevent it… like asking for help reduces our manhood… or makes us look weak or helpless
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success that we truly want out of life.
Hey, I've been there myself.
But, let me tell you a little something about me that I think you'll be able to apply to your life.
About 4 years ago, I simply became frustrated with my lack in progress in life. After all, I have an engineering degree and was getting great marketing experience… I'm not bad looking and my body wasn't in god awful shape (just skinny).
Let's just say that frustrated is an understatement at this point… maybe you're feeling that way RIGHT NOW.
What I figured out was this, and I learned it because one smart man that I respect a bunch told me this when I asked him what he thought my problem was.
He said, "… your problem is that you're a loner."
"WHAT!" (I didn't know what to think)
"Your problem is that you try to do ALL the research, ALL the work, ALL the figuring out of things from scratch… but guess what… all of this stuff has ALREADY been figured out.
Your ego is making you take the HARD ROAD and you don't even realize it. You think you’re being honorable by "earning your stripes" but the simple fact is that instead of standing on the shoulders of those that have come before you or those that have already figured this stuff out… you're reducing yourself to mediocrity while everyone else passes you by."
Do you want to talk about a slap in the face… man… I felt it deep in my gut, and I knew that he was right.
It all made sense.
He went on to tell me that long ago, he quit worrying about what other people thought of him. If he didn't know something or wanted a desired result, he went and found the people that ALREADY knew how to get this desired result and one way or another… got the information… and therefore the result… that he was looking for.
And that, my friend, was the #1 key to his success.
Once I seriously grasped that… things started to RAPIDLY change in my life. My body improved, my finances improved, my love life improved.
Did I have challenges? You bet.
But I stopped trying to do everything myself. I learned to find the PEOPLE that could help me and leverage their results and expertise to get my results FAR FASTER than if I tried to do it on my own.
It has been a very rewarding experience.
I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… when I need to have an answer to a challenge because I KNOW that asking questions and going to the BEST PEOPLE is in my best interest.
And that comes from getting results… period.
With no results… there's no competence. Without competence… there's no confidence.
I know that without a doubt, I can find the answer to virtually any challenge that I have by finding the right expert to help me FAR FASTER than if I trying to do my own research, or search the INTERNET on any given topic.
So that's what I've done.